Sister Wives? I’ll Take Four!


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Sometime last year, my wife and I were intrigued by the title and content of an upcoming reality show on TLC called “Sister Wives.”  We set our DVR to record the series, so as not to miss a single episode and we faithfully watched each week.  They must have experienced some level of rating success because the first half of season two aired earlier this year, as my wife and I dutifully tuned in to every episode once again.  The second half of season two is slated to air in September.

The premise of the unscripted show is to allow viewers a peek into the day to day lifestyle of a real and practicing polygamist family living in Lehi, Utah.  Kody Brown is the lucky or unlucky, depending on your point of view, husband of four wives and the father of 16 children… which causes me to be entrenched deeply within the “he is unlucky” crowd.

Despite the obvious legal risk, the Brown Family moved forward with the show in an effort to bring more awareness to polygamist families as well as to combat societal prejudices.  The first half of season two ended with the families abruptly moving to the Las Vegas area in an attempt to distance themselves from the local authorities making good on a promise to fully investigate the legality of their arrangement.

This week, we learn that Kody Brown and family are going on the offensive in their fight with the Utah authorities.  The family has retained constitutional lawyer, Jonathan Turley to represent them in this legal squabble.

Quoting from a July 12, 2011 story in the New York Post: “This lawsuit . . . seeks the reaffirmation of their privacy,” Turley told The Post yesterday. “The Browns are asking for nothing more than for rights that are extended to other families in living their private lives according to their own values and faith.”

Unlike the gay rights movement which seeks legalization of same sex marriages, the Browns seek simply to be left alone in the practice of their lifestyle choice.

Their fight sounds simple… almost noble.  But hidden in the likable cast members and the favorable show edits, lies yet another attack on the traditional family unit that has been the cornerstone of the civilized world since the beginning of time.  Watching the show, you almost get sucked into a position of sympathy for their struggle and I was forced to remind myself to respond based on what I know versus on what I feel.

My concern doesn’t lie in the fear that a large sector of society will be clamoring to become polygamists. My concern is that we now have yet another, publicly accepted “family unit” that is outside the bounds of tradition as well as a violation of scriptural principle. Since the dawn of mankind, the sacred bond of marriage has been correctly defined as a union between one woman and one man.  Whether we realize it or not, we who believe in this tradition, find ourselves in an all out war for the sanctity of traditional and biblical marriage.

There is no neutrality in this war, no Switzerland here, no conscientious objectors; you are either for traditional marriage, or you stand with those who want to change the moral guidelines and spiritual markers that have guided civilized behavior since the time of Moses. It’s that simple.

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  • Anonymous

    While I agree with the preservation of traditional marriage, I’ll take some issue with your interpretation of scripture. The Old Testament follows a timeline the first 5 books being the books of Moses. David, who had many wives, some of whom where given to him by the Prophet of the time, comes onto the scene in 1 Kings after Moses and after the books of Moses.

    That being said, traditional marriage must be protected but not through hyperbole and misinformation.

    • Bart Munson

      I hear what you are saying and I will admit that God seemed to tolerate polygamy through some of the old testament but I don’t believe his silence equates to acceptance.  With regards to marital issues, the commands, instruction and counsel throughout the Bible are directed at a one man, one woman model of marriage.

      • Anonymous

        Like I said. I’m in favor of protecting traditional marriage. I’m just taking issue with scripture being misquoted to fit someone’s needs.

      • Anonymous

        Like I said. I’m in favor of protecting traditional marriage. I’m just taking issue with scripture being misquoted to fit someone’s needs.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Brian-Myers/1024026834 Brian Myers

        That’s just silly. Bart hasn’t done that at all. Furthermore, the concept of one man/one woman goes back to the Garden in Genesis 2. I know of no orthodox Christian theologian that takes the position that since we see men take multiple wives in OT narrative that it must have been authorized by God.

      • http://www.facebook.com/people/Brian-Myers/1024026834 Brian Myers

        That’s just silly. Bart hasn’t done that at all. Furthermore, the concept of one man/one woman goes back to the Garden in Genesis 2. I know of no orthodox Christian theologian that takes the position that since we see men take multiple wives in OT narrative that it must have been authorized by God.

      • Bart Munson

        And… the scripture that I misquoted is ____________________?

      • Anonymous

        I’ve tried deleting my comments without real success. I wrote a fairly detailed explanation of my position but I would prefer to deliver it in private if we’re to continue this discussion. I prefer not to argue with my allies in public and I apologize for violating that rule in this instance. You are of course correct that traditional marriage must be protected. If there is a way to delete my comments please feel free to do so.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1421670400 Will Morgan

    I am going to have to side with those that don’t wish to impose their views and ideas on others. With those that, even though they don’t always agree with the life choices that others make, do not interfere with their right to make them. If there truly is a Heaven and a Hell, and God disapproves of such conduct, then HE will take the proper course of action. 

    Remember, He sent his only son to die for our sins. Jesus was the model of perfection. And he never forced anyone to do anything. He never used the power of the government to impose his perfect ideals on people. He simply set an example, and asked to be believed in. So next time you want to bring YOUR judgement; YOUR WAR on someone who wishes you no harm… Just remember that even if your cause is noble, it does not justify force. 

    • Bart Munson

      I never said anything about “force.”  My composition was meant to be a strong reminder that the pillar of American society continues to be targeted.  I would admonish those believers in traditional marriage to stand firm in their belief and not be ashaned to proclaim it.

    • vcook

      Will, your comments confuse me. Your tone seems to be lashing out at the writer, yet your words seem to support his stance. You said, “I am going to have to side with those that don’t wish to impose their views and ideas on others.” I believe it is the traditional, one-man-one-woman believer who is going about business quietly, while every other faction is forcing tolerance and acceptance for other values down our throats. I interpreted Bart’s column to reflect this idea.