I remember the nurse practitioner saying, “I have a legal obligation to tell you that you can end this pregnancy.” In spite of being overwhelmed by the timing of this pregnancy, this was the last thing I would do or needed to hear. It was offensive that she had the legal obligation to say this to me when what I needed to hear was about the miracle of life that was growing inside of me. I have always wondered why there was not a legal obligation to get me emotional support when I obviously needed it.

My husband and I were both twenty-one when we were married; in love, we knew we could conquer the world on a penny and a prayer. I was a college student, determined to go to law school and he was working the swing shift at $7.80 an hour. We were living the newly wed dream. We were not planning on having children for a very long time as we had life plans for our future; but the contraceptive didn’t work and we found ourselves just over six months newly married and pregnant.

I cried almost every day of that pregnancy. The timing was a disaster in my mind. The finances were impossible. The dreams I had were dying before my very eyes. The theme song of my life was “I”. Yet because I knew that life began at conception, an abortion would be murder, plain and simple. Murder is a capital offense before God and I would not kill the life that was growing in me because it cut into my well laid plans.

According to WebMD, I had all the classic reasons to justify an abortion and I fit the list of the most common reasons that teens and young women choose to have an abortion:4

  • Awareness that they are not mature enough to have children.
  • Knowledge that they are financially not able to support or care for children.
  • Concern that having a baby would change their lives and compromise their (and a child’s) future. Many young mothers don’t ever manage to get the education and employment necessary to raise their children above the poverty line.
  • Birth control (contraceptive) failure. Over half of all women who have an abortion used a contraceptive method during the month they became pregnant.3
  • Physical or mental conditions that endanger the woman’s health if the pregnancy is continued.

I could have checked off each one of these reasons and made the legally justified decision to end the pregnancy, but my belief that all life is sacred and that conception is the beginning of life, countered these selfish reasons to abort this baby.

I continued on with my life, as this new life grew inside mine. I walked to my political science classes, worked my part-time job and dealt with the emotions of life not going the way I planned it. My husband came with me to every doctor’s appointment and was my support. We saw our baby, looking very much like a baby on the ultra sound and we went to birthing classes to prepare for this event. I continued to cry. The day she was born, my tears dried up.

Twenty years and four more children later, my life is very different from the one I had planned, yet I recognize that God knows better that me. I have talked to professionals who have lived their dreams in their pursued fields, but have missed out on what they have discovered as their most important calling on life. I specifically recall a conversation with my doctor, who had just begun practicing medicine. She and I both had had babies around the same time, and she was back at work, doing the job she had dreamed about for a most of her life. She said, “I would love to stay home with my baby, but I have medical school bills to pay and can’t afford not to work.” She was living her life long career dream, but was torn because her heart was with her son. Her work was noble, but she recognized what she was missing not being home.

God gave me a gift of an unplanned pregnancy, because it altered my life course and gave me His life course instead. I am so grateful that I did not have to make the difficult decision to choose career over child raising. I don’t know if I would have chosen rightly. But God in His grace allowed me to hold my baby in my arms, while studying for finals and getting my degree; all the while recognizing that His plans are higher than mine and the job He had for me was to raise a family.

Had I allowed my legal right to dictate what I would do about my unwanted pregnancy, I would be a radically different woman today. But I did what I knew to be true, in spite of my feelings, and I let life live. Today I have a beautiful daughter in college, about the same age I was when she was conceived, who is living to serve God and pursuing her dreams. My dreams continue to be molded by God’s best for me. I may not like the direction it is heading at a given moment, but I can rest knowing that He has a vantage point that I do not and that His eyes see eternity in all directions, while mine only have the past and the present in sight. If I had lived for the moment twenty years ago, lived in the emotion, decided that my selfish legal right was to abort my unwanted pregnancy, not only would I have lived with the guilt of murdering my first-born child, but also, I would have missed out on all that she has brought to my life and to the world. It must be stated that if I had ended this un-planned pregnancy, God in His grace and love would have forgiven me, when I turned to Him in repentance. I recognize God’s hand in my life, in high-definition hind-sight, that He was the strength, when I had no strength of my own, that helped me make the right decision to keep my baby. God gave us a precious daughter which we named Alethia, the Greek word for Truth, as her life has brought Truth into ours.

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  1. Thanks for your wonderful post. It takes a lot of courage to stand against what seems like ‘reasonable argument’ from those who hold some kind of authority.

    Unfortunately many others would take what at the time seems like the easier path. They then live a life of regret.
    .-= Rodney Olsen´s last blog ..Glamourising Abuse =-.

  2. Wow! That touched me deeply. As someone who did make the decision once to have an abortion, I so agree with this author. Why can’t saving the baby be legally necessitated by law as well.

    That has to have been one of the best posts I have read here, and you have many good posts!
    .-= Dominique´s last blog ..Lessons learned =-.

  3. I too was very young when I was first pregnant. Neither did my husband and I plan this pregnancy. I had barely turned 20. My daughter was not planned – but she was loved. What I needed was support and people encouraging me. I can still remember and become angry to recall that someone suggested I murder my daughter. They tried to “say it” in some “cosmopolitan” and “elite” and “superior minded” and just oh so intelligent and wise a manner trying to tell me I had that “choice”. Someone advocated to me that I murder my own child. I don’t care how noble and wise and altruistic they tried to frame their “concern” for me – they advocated me killing my own child.

    What if I had been weak and impressionable, scared, without a strong base of morality and love for my child?? It’s appalling that people think they are “helping” by advocating murder to young women. I was offended. They took something beautiful and tried to make my child of zero value and my pregnancy something to be despised rather than celebrated.

    My daughter is grown up now, the joy of my life (along with her brother), one of my very best friends, my work out partner, so like me – we’re like best friends and we think just alike and love to hang out together as friends. No treasure could ever “replace her”. It’s not like I could have “aborted her” and had another child later to “replace her” when I felt “ready to have children”. She’s irreplacable.

    In fact, I hoped to have more children. I would have ideally had 6.

    However, my husband and I ended up having only two children. One of us must have become infertile for whatever reason. Because I had my daughter – then I had my son a year and a half later – and we had no more children.

    The idea of murdering my dear daughter is really offensive to even suggest.

    But those who think that they can kill a child now – and later have as many as they want – that’s not how life works.

    You would be killing a child you cannot replace EVER with ANYONE ELSE!! – and… you may not physically be able to have as many children as you want later even if you are pregnant now before you planned.

    Furthermore, being a mother was the greatest joy and best job I could ever hope to have.

    I sincerely wish I could have been able to have the 6 I wanted. But God has His plans.

    don’t believe the lies – and don’t EVER think you are doing anyone an altruistic “favor” to suggest to them the murder of their own child.

    I never desired to SPEAK TO the person who suggested that to me again!!

    You don’t advise someone to murder their own child and think you are going to be held in high regard by anyone who realizes what you are saying to them. People who advocate abortion and think they are being “friends” should realize they are not being friends or helpful. They are being hateful plain and simple in their deeds.

  4. If this blog would help someone that you know is struggling with these intense issues, please pass it along. No one goes through life without learning lessons that may be invaluable to another person in need. God Bless!

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