image Matthew Yglesias at Think Progress commented on Al & Tipper Gore’s divorce after 40 years of marriage, he wrote:

Life in a modern-day developed economy is quite long. If two people can be happy together for 38 years, during which time they raise a few kids, and then maybe be unhappy for two years and wind up realizing they want to get divorced is that really such a “failure”? It sounds okay to me. Kind of impressive, actually! As a society, I think we need to cut ourselves some more slack about this kind of thing. Failure is relative.

No.  Divorce after 40 years, even if 38 of them were happy, is not only a failure it’s a tragedy.  It doesn’t matter how many years the couple have been married or who they may be.

  1. Yes, it is a tragedy. I’ve been married 37 yrs and it is hard to comprehend divorce after spending most of my life with one person. Death is an inevitable separation that God will give grace to bear. But divorce? God said he hates it for a reason.

    1. For clarity, viewing divorce as tragic does not in any way equal a lack of compassion or harsh judgement. Quite to the contrary. Even though there may be Biblical grounds for divorce, God still hates it and we should share His feelings. Those of us who have been hurt by it understand it’s bitter sting and understand why God feels this way.

  2. It’s hard to know what has been going on behind closed doors for those 20,30 or 40 years. Some people are long suffering for the sake of many things such as “the kids” or their “testimony”or wanting to do the “right thing” . God has not called us to be abused. I am in no way minimizing the seriousness of it or the fact that G-d does hate it, but he loves people more than he loves the institution.It’s easy for those who have had a good marriage to sit in judgement of those who may have endured considerable pain for a very long time.

    1. How many divorces are because “we fell out of love” or “irreconcilable differences” that is what I’m talking about.

      Divorce due to abuse, abandonment, or adultery is still tragic. It’s still a failure of the marriage, but that doesn’t mean we treat those people harshly. That isn’t what I was getting at.

  3. Whether a marriage for the Gore’s continues or not, 38 years is an incredible achievement. This divorce isn’t something the public or the press needs to have a say in at all.

    1. You are right, I meant to address what Matthew said about divorce in general. His comments were made in the context of the Gore’s divorce which is only reason I mentioned it. I wanted to challenge his remarks, but my intention wasn’t to single out the Gores.

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